0.0 to 2023 — Shine bright with honesty (and hack your mind, it’s time)

Me: “I love Christmas! I love New Year’s Eve! 5–4–3–2–1 Let’s pop champagne to a new year, greatness, so much love and success! “
Same me on 15th of May: “It’s summer soon. Where’s my summer body? I should have gone to the gym 3x a week like I said on 1st of January.I’m fat. And I suck, I made resolutions I can’t even hold.Let’s wash my pain away in some more ice cream.”

Sound familiar? It surely does. For each of us, and that’s human. The problem is not the fact you change your mind, or that you don’t hold to your resolution. The problem is how you think about NY resolutions, how you set them and how this society leads us into having a very unrealistic our self-image (& yearly objectives).

Solution ? Easy. Hack your system, hack your mind. Ready?
Here’s the intro to a series of 4 articles inspired by workshops I’m giving on leading (just for once) January right.
And at the same time, feeling magically more peaceful (we love magic!)

So yeah Vanessa, you’re telling me to take no resolutions?
Well my dear, not exactly.

New Year’s the most popular time in life to reflect on oneself, starting with big, huge plans oriented on the future, what we want from this year and building top-down out of unrealistically high personal targets.
Very focused on the outside, what we’re supposed to have/do/possess. On what we lack or don’t have yet, have not done yet.
I personally love to dream, but this race behind new goals doesn’t consider anything from our daily (actual) life, adds a lot of pressure and a continuous feedback loop of negative emotions (shame, disappointment, …)

I’ll suggest a bottom-up approach, of building your future by 1st taking time to reflect on your past, and also have honesty about your present: who you are, how you really function (yeah actually, you’ll have to be quite straight with yourself — that’s where the fun starts)

If we can’t be honest with ourselves about where we are and what we are capable of, how can we hope to adapt for the future?

As Mark Manson truly says in it’s brilliant book “The subtle art of not giving a f**k”: “Developing desire and the constant search for positive experiences, is as such a negative experience, while paradoxically, accepting our “negative” experiences is as such a positive experience”

Let’s embark in the 3 next articles on how to define success with consciousness, through self-development, re-define what truly matters, and finally start 2023 with care for our mental health instead of the pursuit to “fake” happiness (Kid Cudi style)

Ready? Set, Go!

Credit pic : Charles Deluvio from Unsplash